Writing lists to help with anxiety

Some days my anxiety sets in with a mighty force and even the smallest of tasks feel like too much to bare. I find myself unable to leave the house and all the tasks, events and work I have to do have to take a backseat.

However, these daunting tasks are still circling round my head, making me more and more anxious. I can’t stop thinking about what I’m missing and how I should be doing them. I start to worry I will forget the tasks I have to do and it develops into a feeling of being crushed from the thought of having to deal with these unimaginable responsibilities while also struggling with the extreme fear and anxiety I have already going on.

One of the best coping mechanisms I’ve found when my anxiety sets in like this is to write a list of all the responsibilities and tasks I have to do.

This seems extremely simplistic but it is so helpful to just get everything in my head down somewhere I can physically look at them. By getting these thoughts out of my head and on to a physical piece of paper it relieves the stress of them caving in on me. It’s sort’ve like I am able to push them away and deal with them later as a result of removing them from my messy head.

Writing down all my worries makes them seem more manageable, I can plan out when to deal with them. This makes them seem less frightening and daunting. Ticking one task off at a time also helps in making me feel like I’ve accomplished something, no matter how small it is, and beat my anxiety.

Hopefully sharing this will help someone else in the same position as me feel the same! Do you guys ever use this method to relieve anxiety, or have any other methods to recommend? Let me know!

Social anxiety

EPISODES WITH SOCIAL ANXIETY AND THE ART OF OVERTHINKING: 2.

So today I had an appointment to get my hair done as I am going to a festival next week. I had already paid the deposit. I love getting my hair done but never do it because it makes me too anxious. The thought of a hairdressers sends me into a compete panic, so much so that I haven’t went in 6 years. Which has resulted in many bad, personally inflicted, dye jobs and haircuts over the years, that i’ll spare you the details of.  

I stand outside the door ready to go in, the salon is packed. I find myself doing a lap around the block, giving myself more time to mentally prepare what i’m going to say and the route I will take to the front desk.  I try to hype myself up to go in, but to no avail. No matter what I do I can genuinely not bring myself to walk in and get my hair done. 

I have so many thoughts. I’m worried I’ll ask for the wrong thing, that I won’t be able to make conversation, that they won’t be able to do what I want, that I have my appointment mixed up. I can not make it through the door. I am in full fight or flight mode with my adrenaline feeling like it is about to bust out of every pore in my body. After 10-15 minutes (and therefore becoming 10-15 minutes late for the appointment, which only adds to my anxiety) I give up and get the bus home instead. On top of the disappointment I am feeling for letting myself down I am also guilty about wasting an appointment for the hairdresser, who will have lost a profit as a result of this.

The thing is, it wasn’t the salon being packed that I was really that worried about, it was the one to one talking that would take up around an hour that most terrified me. The thought of talking to a stranger for that long makes me feel so incredibly anxious, the fear of not knowing what to say, or how to say it, of talking too much or too little. 

A hair appointment may seem insignificant, it’s not a necessity.  I understand that. However, this is just an example and it is not just hair appointments that make me feel this way but all one to one encounters. This can be anything as unimportant as a hairdressing appointment to an important doctors appointment or a one on one session with a teacher. People mostly think social anxiety just has to do with big crowds and is to some extent, but it is also to do with just talking to people one on one, in fact I feel like that brings me more pressure and anxiety. 

So anyway, today I have missed a hair appointment, last week I missed an exercise class (that I really enjoy) because I just couldn’t face the thought of people that day. It is a continuous uphill battle; some days are good, and some days are bad. Today wasn’t good, but hopefully tomorrow can be better. 

I’m new here

This blog is about my experiences, observations and tales as an anxious 20 something navigating life. My posts are not always going to be serious, infact most of them won’t be. My day to day struggle with anxiety often leads me into situations that are more like something off a sketch show than a mental illness support group.  

I want to share my experiences with other people in the hope that I can start a conversation on what it’s really like to deal with anxiety and OCD as a young person starting off in adulthood. I also want to share my tips and tricks that I’ve learned on the way. Although some of my posts may just be mild observations that I’ve made or weird situations that my anxiety have led me into, that I feel people may be able to relate to/ laugh at. 

This blog is welcome to anyone who feels they have something to add on the subject, feel free to comment, email, get in touch or whatever with your own trips and tricks! The more we talk about this stuff the easier it gets to navigate in our everyday lives! 

If this website does nothing else, at least it shows we’re not all on this excruciating journey of rehearsing our food orders over and over before ordering and counting our change 30 times before we get on the bus, alone!